Finding My Sense of Belonging

Part 2 to God’s Promise – If you haven’t read that post, Stop, and read that one first.

So the next job …. 

It was the COMPLETE OPPOSITE of the first. It was a different area of the law and a small firm run by a man. And it was just different. The environment was A LOT calmer! My boss spoke life into me and often encouraged me. He was a very kind man who meant well! 

There was just one problem … which wasn’t really a big problem … but a problem nonetheless. I wasn’t making enough money. I was making … let’s just say the very bare minimum. And while I liked where I worked, money was a big issue for me at that time and I wasn’t even getting any additional perks or benefits. And life was lifeing, if you know what I mean. And the job required a lot from me and it just became quite stressful; too much to bear for that amount of money. 

But still, I finally found a place where I was wanted but I didn’t feel …. valued. And after a few months … I had to leave … not only because of my life circumstances but because I knew that I deserved more! 

So I went back to the drawing board … AGAIN … 

This time, I changed my prayer up a little bit. It wasn’t just about the money for me. It was STILL very important for me to find a place that wanted me. So, I asked God to not only provide me with more money, but to also put me in a place where I still received encouragement from a village of people who preferably looked like me

And being that my career consists of very few that look like me, I knew it was a big ask … but how does that saying go? Closed mouths don’t get fed! Or even better, Ask and you shall receive! – so that’s what I did!

I wanted to find a mentor and someone I could always go to for things and that would already understand where I was coming from. Because, yes I was a Lawyer, yes I had a job, yes I worked with nice people. But I didn’t feel like I had people that I could relate to nor be vulnerable with; people that understood my struggle – in life and in the workplace. I didn’t have my circle of people who I felt like I could lean on and go to. And yea, I had friends from law school, but I didn’t have anyone seasoned looking out for me

And I’m not negating resources & contacts that were provided to me. They were just …. they were resources and contacts from other people; people who were often doing favors. And I wanted to build my OWN connections if that makes sense. And the few connections that I did make on my own, lets just say they didn’t provide the support that they promised they would. So, I always felt like I didn’t have a strong professional support system.

But anyway, I landed at Legal Aid … lol 

Listennnnnn ….. God did his BIG ONE!!!!!! He introduced me to Alana, Rashad, Domonique, Sidrena, Adres, and Leo. Yall, I found my village! I found my family! People that uplifted me, mentored, encouraged, and most of all loved and valued me. And they showed me that I was already great and reminded me that the sky’s the limit. They reminded me that even when the world is against you, with God, all things were possible. And I will forever cherish the relationships that were created there. Because not only did I find a professional support system, I found a family!

And when things started to fall apart there (I’ll just say it wasn’t the right fit – for any of us lol #IYKYK) But now looking back, I see the plan God had for me – he was answering my very specific prayer!

Nonetheless, I went back to the drawing board … AGAIN!!!!!!!

But this time I was like alright God, I HAVE HAD ENOUGH!!!! Lol. But when God tells you to move, you move! 

And the day after I added my resume to Indeed. My former boss called me. (I probably should note that me and him kept in touch. Because again, we had a very positive relationship). He asked me to meet him for lunch. Long story short, together we had an honest and vulnerable conversation & in the end he asked me to come back for more money.

Respectfully speaking, my boss didn’t exactly see my full value at first when I was right in front of him. It took me leaving, stepping out on faith, for him to see my worth. And truthfully, I think I also needed to find confidence and reassurance in my value. To know that I wasn’t asking for too much and that I was indeed worth what I was asking for. And I think in the end … it worked out in BOTH of our favors.

So, I ended up saying Yes. 

And after all that … I’m still not sure if it’s my dream job lol, however, I CAN say that I found a HOME! 

But this time, I returned home better than I had left. I found reassurance and more confidence AND I had my OWN professional (and personal) support system! 

Now look at God, the journey was exhausting, but I found MY village and a HOME! 

Lord, I thank you! 

TAKE AWAY: 

  1. When God says move, move! 
  1. Know your worth and your value! If you feel like you aren’t being valued in whatever situation you are in … it just might be time to move along.
  1. Cherish the things in front of you before they are gone. Sometimes we lose those things; sometimes we can get them back; but sometimes, they are gone forever!
  1. Don’t be afraid to ask God for ALL the desires of your heart! 
  2. Look for your village, your support system, because we all need one! Life is already hard & we shouldn’t have to do it alone. And if you don’t have one, take it from me – start with God!


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    He gone give us what we ask for lol loved this blog.

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